Monday, March 31, 2008

Irked

I don't get it! Again, today, someone made a comment basically stating that the only sensible spacing between children is four years because you don't want to pay for two students in college at the same time. That comment, which I've heard from some of my close friends, my grandmother, and mere acquaintances, makes my blood boil. Don't misunderstand me; I'm completely okay with children being four years apart. But there are two basic problems with the four-year college spacing plan:
  1. It assumes that we are completely in control of our fertility. If we were planning to get two dogs that were four years apart (smart dogs, if we're using the college reasoning!), then we could easily just get two dogs with that spacing. Getting pregnant doesn't work that way. (In case you're wondering, no, we're not trying right now. That's not where this frustration is coming from!) I've read different studies about fertility. One said a woman only has a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle, and another said 85% of couples get pregnant within one year of trying. That means 15% of couples are still not pregnant after a full year. Doesn't sound like science supports our controlled spacing, does it? Most importantly, in several places in God's Word, we see him open the wombs of women (for example, see the stories of Rachel and Leah in Genesis 29 and 30). God is in control of whether or not we get pregnant, not us.
  2. It assumes that we are complete dolts at budgeting. Here's a tidbit of info that I guess escapes those pushing the four year spacing: Kids don't come out ready to start college! Jocelyn was born in 2007; we aren't going to be shocked in 2025 when Jocelyn starts college. I suppose, given the latest stats about debt, it shouldn't surprise me that it wouldn't occur to people that you could save in advance rather than just paying as you go. But we have a budget, and we save. If Calico/Zoe/Arabella or Gavin (our latest names for a girl or boy) comes before Jocelyn is four, then we'll budget to plan for having two in college at one time.

If you want to aim for four-year spacing between your kids, go for it! But don't tell me what my family should do, and don't laud four-year spacing as the only logical, wise, or prudent spacing.

Monday, March 24, 2008

Wonderfully redeemed

As an update, our sweet little niece and Jocelyn's cousin is named Emery Shea Saunders. She had her name less than 24 hours after my last post, but I'm still getting the hang of this blogging thing!

As another aside, Happy Easter! Obviously, this is one day belated, but I swore off computers yesterday so we could have a true Easter celebration as a family. We want to church in the morning and then spent the rest of the day here at the house, so it was a low-key day in which we took time to pause and think about the amazing sacrifice of Christ's life and the more amazing rise from the dead that offered us the gift of everlasting life in Him. Mind you, the Bible is clear that this gift is available to all but, since some will not accept it, will not be received by all. If you have any questions about that, let me know. Instead of trying to eloquently explain that point using Scripture, I'm going to submit to a man I greatly respect, our pastor David Horner. At this link, you can listen to the audio of his sermon from yesterday (just scroll down to the table, and click on the sermon from 3/23 - it hasn't been posted yet as I write this, but it will be within the next couple of days).

Hopefully, I'll be posting our Easter pictures soon!